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Endorsed by THE Dr. Bernie Siegel!

Posted on Dec 2, 2016 in Blog |

It’s a big deal when someone like me gets email from famous, talented, wise authors writing me and telling me what a useful tool this healing journal is. So imagine my glee when THE Dr. Bernie Siegel wrote me several emails telling me how much he loves “The Best Part of My Day Healing Journal”?! He said to feel free to tell people he likes it and believes it to be a helpful healing tool . . . . so I’m telling you! “When you experience joy, happiness and laughter you are more likely to be healthy, recover faster from and resist illness. Recording those positive emotions, recalling them in a journal, is a positive step of therapeutic value. The Best Part of My Day Healing Journal provides the format and fodder for such healing steps.” – Dr. Bernie Siegel ( Feel free to pass this around! The healing journal makes a great holiday gift for anyone dealing with a chronic or major illness. I’m actually finding it quite helpful for my grief as well. – use the discount code N2GX4YBD to receive $4 off the retail price! Share...

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Who I Am and What I Value

Posted on Nov 11, 2016 in Blog |

An acquaintance sat across the table from another woman. They are both life coaches. They had previously chatted on the phone and were now meeting IRL. One asked the other to tell her about herself – sometimes the hardest and most pointless question ever. She gave her an off the cuff list of what she values in a way to describe who she is. You can read her post here. And she challenged others to do the same. Here are mine (Sharon Elaine Williams Rainey): I am a feeler – I feel my own emotions intensely, unceasingly, and without organization. I feel them as they come, big, small, trivial, life changing. I am an empath – I feel everyone else’s feelings too. With no filter, no order, and no directions. I am writer – I have an incessant need to process my feelings through writing. And I have an incessant need to share my writing with others. The words swirl in my head endlessly until I write them down. I think in words. Pictures are hard for me. Auditory processing is almost nil, so if you want me to remember it, you better write it down and send it to me in an email – because my memory is also shitty. I am a connector. I never seem to know THE some one or thing, but I usually know someone who knows THE some one or thing. I despise conflict. I want everyone to get along. We don’t have to agree, but I demand everyone around me be respectful. If we don’t have respect, we don’t have much else. I am a recovering addict – I have 28 years’ experience of living life on life’s terms, which is still a challenge for me. So I still attend 12 Step meetings to help me remember that the only person, place or thing I can control is ME. I am a learner – I am always looking for the lesson in my daily life. I like to try to learn things the first time around so I don’t have to review them over and over in new situations. I believe that...

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My Playlist from Dad’s Final 26 Days – The Songs with Words – Part 2

Posted on Aug 6, 2016 in Blog |

As I stated in my earlier post: During Dad’s 26 days and nights in the hospital, I listened to particular songs depending on what I needed. The music helped close out the hospital noises, helped me calm my breathing and anxiety, and it gave me a place for my emotions to connect and feel safe. This music transcended me at times. It felt as though I was talking to Dad in some of the songs, giving words to emotions that were so strong, I wasn’t sure I could survive the pain. Some of the songs were significant in their melodic tone, some were because of the specific lyrics, and some, because they allowed my tears to flow more easily. And some were my simple prayers to God, pleading for Him to heal Dad. Some of us connect through words, some through deeds and others through music. In my pain, when I couldn’t find my words, these songs found them for me. I probably should have researched what each of these songs meant to the songwriters, but at the time I was choosing them, it didn’t matter. What mattered was how I could maintain hope, a sense of balance, and my connection to Dad. These are the songs that ended up on my list. The Songs with Words About You – the Breakthrough by Mary J. Blige Every now and then, I needed to hear the voice of a strong woman who has risen above her struggles and succeed in being the woman God wanted her to be. Mary J. Blige is one of those amazing women who defeated demons in her life and now brings joy and light to others. “I am in the place with the love / Yeah, it feels, it feels good / (It’s a new life for me, yeah)” The Big Love Has Died – 7 by Seal I still cry every single time I hear this song. The love between a father and daughter is a Big Love. And mine has died. “So confused, I’m amazed, I refused to believe you’d never change in my time spent with you” “And I believed in everything...

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Mired in Muck

Posted on May 4, 2016 in Blog |

May 3, 2016 Today, I was going to write another inspiring, hopeful blog about #Lyme disease, encouraging all the patients out there that they too can heal. I have an entire spreadsheet of quotes from Lyme Savvy that I want to write blog postings about to explain why we said what we said. I started a Word file with the first two days of blog postings. And then today happened. I woke up in pain. It was hard to get moving. I went to work and tried to update some software that took two and a half hours and I am still not done because it didn’t install where it said it was installing (and I have a professional who can back me up on that, it wasn’t just me reading something incorrectly). I had two computers and couldn’t use either one because of this damn software malfunction. Then, I left to go to the Lyme doctor’s office. I got some TLC there, but it is emotionally and physically draining. Jeff has been driving me everywhere since Dad died. I’m not a safe driver right now for long distances. The crying from grief attacks me at inopportune moments, like when I am on the road, or in the shower, or on a phone call with a client, or before we go to bed and the house is silent. The phlebotomist fussed at me because I am dehydrated and it took her four sticks to get the iv in. She always gets me on the first try, even when I am dehydrated. Jeff picked up lunch for me so when I got out of the appointment at 2 pm. I am so grateful for this man in my life. I came home instead of going back to work because I was crying too hard from grief about Dad’s death. I came home, turned on my laptop and it told me the Start Up Disk is FULL and it wouldn’t work. I spent three hours lying in bed, clearing files from my computer to try to get it to work. THREE HOURS. I started to write this blog piece, trying to...

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Death of My Dad

Posted on Mar 28, 2016 in Blog |

After 26 days in the hospital, my dad died this past Good Friday at 5:43 am. We didn’t know his illness was terminal until a week before he passed.  Until then, my sisters and I kept vigil 24/7, promising never to leave Dad alone as per his request. I am attaching his obituary here.  Many people in the Northern Virginia area knew my dad (Earle C. Williams).  He left quite a legacy for so many. Visitation will be at Fairfax Memorial Funeral Home on Wednesday from 2-4 pm and 6-8 pm. The funeral is tentatively set for Thursday morning, exact time and location still being determined.  It has been a bit difficult to get things locked in on a holiday weekend. Death, grief, sadness, all play a significant part in a person’s healing or lack therof. I am very fortunate to be surrounded by people who are sensitive to my physical needs for rest and quiet.  But as anyone who has experienced the death of a parent or close grandparent knows, this is not easy. I still can’t talk much. Just going through the motions and trying to take care of Mom. Please pray for her to find comfort and peace during this time.  They were married for 64 years. I cry at the oddest, insignificant and significant moments. “Who will say grace?” was today’s moment. Share...

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