Posted on Dec 30, 2010 in Blog |
I hate resolutions. For years, I rebelled and swore I wouldn’t make any. Call me the rebel, but I thought it was ridiculous to make a list of things I wanted to commit to only not to follow through on this within the next sixty days. I refused to make a list. Until a couple of years ago. I guess I thought I was being too obstinate about the whole thing. Maybe I should try. So I made my list and then
I taped it in my journal in about five places so that sporadically, through the year, I could check to see how I was coming along.
I made a list of 14 items ranging from taking Stephen to get his driver’s license to painting our office. I also included getting an agent or self-publishing my book. I sort of needed to include in there to finish writing the book first.
But 2009 was the year I was diagnosed with Lyme Disease and Bartonella. And suddenly, like, within a week’s time, my list didn’t have a whole lot of significance.
Last year, my resolutions for 2010 were pretty simple: do whatever I needed to do to heal from this wretched disease.
So, this year, I have two lists. The first list is of ‘resolutions’ of things I want to do that I think are life changing. Actually, they are merely a continuation of things I have already started doing, but they have helped me in healing and in living. They are broken down into time periods:
Once during the year –
get a Lyme test from Galaxy Diagnostics lab
Once a month
Record the books I read
Once a week
Forgive someone – let them off the hook
Try something new
Say Thank You to someone – in writing or in person
Once a day
Keep a kindness or gratitude journal
Tell one person I love them or how I appreciate them
Do something nice for someone else
Do something to promote healing for self
So, I’m going to admit that the first one, I really want everyone else to put on their list of resolutions. Please. Just do it, please. Think of it like a mammogram or PSA or part of your annual check up.
Record the books I read – this has really helped me in a few ways. 1: I have a lousy memory, so it reminds me of what books I have read so I don’t do any repeats. 2: It helps me stay focused on my goal of reading a certain number of books each year. When I see my number isn’t growing in relation to the months in the year, I put more focus on it and get back to reading, which I really love.
Forgiving someone is very freeing for me. It actually helps me more than it helps the other person. These don’t have to be big things; they can be little. But just the act of forgiveness is invigorating.
Trying something new keeps me growing. It can be a new food, or a new route to work. Just do something you haven’t done before.
Saying thank you is important. It gives validation to another human being. It offers respect, honor, and love. Who doesn’t like that once in awhile. Again, something big or little, but tell someone Thank You.
Keeping a gratitude journal is fascinating – I am finding trends . . . I’m trying not to repeat myself each week, so I have to look for other things to be grateful for. Seraching for the good is always a healthy task.
It’s important to know that I am loved. And it’s important for me to tell others I love them. I give my love much more freely now than I used to. I used to ‘save it’ for special people, and then I realized I was being selfish. There is something about middle age, turning 40, that is very freeing. One of those things is that I can openly tell my friends I love them and appreciate them for all they give to me. I don’t fell awkward about it anymore, though I think a few of them might. But that’s ok. Because I love them even when they feel awkward.
Do something nice every day for someone. Open a door for them, tell them you like their scarf, or perfume, or their smile. Just do something nice for someone else. You will be amazed how it makes you feel as you build the number of nice things you do for others.
Laugh – laughter heals. It heals the body, the mind, and the soul. It brings forth life, light, and joy. Laughter is essential in my life.
Do something to promote healing in yourself – this is where you can fit in that ‘I’m going to lose 10 pounds,’ or ‘I’m going to start eating healthy,’ resolutions. After I got my diagnosis and my world turned upside down, I didn’t have the energy to exercise. Sometimes, I couldn’t get out of bed. So I had to look at it from the healing perspective. What will help me heal today? Rest was the answer on most days. But that’s how I started drinking green smoothies, how I started some yoga, and how I got back to writing. Each day, I found something I could do that promoted healing . . . and it didn’t have to be the same thing everyday. The point was to focus on healing and healthy behavior, whatever form it might take on that day.
So there you go. I have New Year’s Resolutions. Feel free to borrow, use, and share them with others. If you decide to get the Lyme test from IGeneX, please let me know!